A lot of men were raised to believe this:
If something’s broken in your relationship, it’s your job to fix it quietly. Stay strong. Don’t complain. Don’t cry. Don’t show weakness.
But that kind of thinking doesn’t lead to deeper connection. It builds distance.
We don’t talk about this enough… especially as men.
Somewhere along the line, a lot of us were taught to be strong by staying silent. To fix problems without asking questions. To protect, provide, absorb, repeat.
But here's the truth: trying to “fix” your relationship by yourself while staying emotionally distant isn’t noble. It’s isolating. And it’s a red flag… both for you and your partner.
In this raw, honest moment from my conversation with Torera George, we unpack what happens when men try to carry the full emotional load in a relationship. The quiet assumption that “I’ll fix it myself” might feel like leadership… but in reality, it builds walls. And sometimes, the person on the other side of that wall is the one you love most.
For the men: stop trying to be Superman. Real strength is saying, “I’m not okay,” and inviting your partner into the process.
For the women: if you’re constantly kept out of what your partner is feeling, it’s not just emotional unavailability… it’s emotional self-sabotage. Don’t ignore it.
This clip is a reminder that love isn’t about saving each other. It’s about surrendering enough to be saved together.
Watch the extended conversation below and share your thoughts.
Have you ever felt this tension… on either side?
I’d genuinely love to hear your thoughts, feel free to share.
Your partner in figuring life out,
Dim
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